What happens when you find your purpose?
When you find your purpose, everything changes.
Here we are, on the brink of a new year, a new decade. How can it nearly be 2020 already?! Doesn’t seem like five minutes since the turn of the century… how can that be 20 YEARS ago?!!!
At the turn of the century I was trying to find direction.
Life was ok, I suppose, but I had this nagging feeling that I was missing something, that I was destined for something different than what I had.
It was frustrating. And it wouldn’t go away.
I felt like I had more to give to the world but no idea what that might look like or how I might go about it. I had no yardstick to measure opportunities against to see how they might fit me.
Setting goals and planning for the new year was all very well, but what goals?
I didn’t know.
I was busy. I had work, a boyfriend, family, plenty of friends and a good social life. Looking back, there didn’t seem to be the space or the opportunity to really ponder what my purpose might be, even if I did know what questions to ask myself to find out (which I didn’t).
So life just continued.
A few more New Years’ Eves rolled past, I got engaged, planned a wedding, got dumped (not quite at the point of saying “I do” but pretty damn close), met someone new, got dumped when I was pregnant (I know, I do pick ’em!) and had my beautiful boy… but my frustration at my lack of purpose and direction prevailed.
Being a single mum leaves even less time for introspection. But it got to the point where I was miserable and that nagging feeling got so bad that I HAD to do something about it.
I escaped to the Welsh coast for a few days on my own, eternally grateful to the friend who let me stay in her cottage which had the perfect vibe for finding oneself. You know when you walk in somewhere for the first time and the building just seems to wrap its arms around you? It was like that.
It was exactly what I needed.
I spent those few days picking over every aspect of my life, teasing out the good, the bad, what I loved, what I hated, and why, what I wanted, what was important to me. I spent early mornings walking on the windswept beach and late evenings pouring everything out into my journal while pouring glasses of wine.
I went round in circles, I got stuck in dead ends, but eventually I found my way through. It was a challenging process but so cathartic. After three days of intense self-inquiry I had distilled the elements of my purpose.
I had figured out what I needed to incorporate into my life to feel like I was being who I really am and doing what I am meant to be doing.
There is a quote from Mark Twain which I love: “The two most important days in your life are the day you are born, and the day you find out why.”
The relief of finally getting that clarity. I can’t begin to tell you how that feels.
And the biggest irony?
Once I’d rejoined the real world and finished processing my thoughts, the most emphatic part of my purpose revealed itself.
My purpose is to help other people to find theirs!
I spent many years lost in the wilderness trying to figure this stuff out for myself. I wanted to create something so other people could find their answers much quicker.
I wanted to create something that helped people to pull together their experience their skills, their passions and their values into a useable map to guide them towards a more fulfilling life.
That thing is Discover Your Life Compass.
If you want to find your purpose, Discover Your Life Compass is an online course that will guide you through the self-searching, ask you the questions you need to answer and give you the satisfaction of coming to your own conclusions. It’s developed from the process that I went through in that little cottage in Wales.
I’m looking forward to 2020. I have big plans. They’re in alignment with who I am and what I’m here to give to the world.
How about you?
P.S. If you know someone who can often be heard saying, “I just don’t know what I should be DOING with my life” earn yourself some brownie points and share this with them. x